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The longer I live, the more I realize the impact of attitude on life. This year started out with much hope and anticipation toward the major events our family was due to experience. National signing day for my son, high school graduation, college, new schools, PCS move… the list goes on. However, on 1 January after a phone call from a friend’s mother, I found myself completely devastated. I had just been told that one of my dearest friends was in the hospital and that the doctor’s were running tests to determine whether she had Lymphoma or Leukemia. A million thoughts ran through my head and I questioned why something like this could happen to such a wonderful person at such a young age? Eventually, the diagnosis was Adult acute lymphoblastic leukemia. I still couldn’t wrap my head around this card that had been dealt. I wanted to ask Why her? Why now? Why this? Why?
I finally got the chance to speak directly to my girlfriend. We laughed and we cried. When I told her about my Why questions she said she had a different set of Why questions… Why these beautiful, good sons? Why this splendid husband who adores me? Why these great friends? Why this wonderful mother? I wasn’t sure how to respond. She continued on…It doesn’t seem fair they have to go through this but I know they are here for me. Each of these people I envision embracing me and giving me the strength and willingness to commit to another day of mystery and suspense. We spoke for a little while longer and what impacted me most was her attitude and how positive she was. She made a statement that I will remember for some time. “I am grateful for every single day, every single new procedure I must endure, every moment breathing and alive, and sharing with friends and strangers. I want to live my life with an open heart, a curious nature, and a smile on my face.” I think about our conversation a lot and what I realized most is that in the face of adversity my girlfriend chose to be positive to not allow the negative to consume her. Her attitude meant everything!
My revelation became believing that “Attitude”, is more important than facts. It is more important than the past, than education, than money, than circumstances, than failures, than successes, than what other people think, say, or do. It is more important than appearance, giftedness, or skill. It will make or break a company, a church, a home. The remarkable thing is we have a choice every day regarding the attitude we will embrace for that day. We cannot change our past. We cannot change the fact that people will act in a certain way. We cannot change the inevitable. The only thing we can do is play on the one string we have, and that is our attitude. I am convinced that life is 10% what happens to me and 90% how I react to it. The same is true for you. We are in charge of our attitudes.
Remember that, believe it and channel it – hopefully 2010 will be a terrific year for all!
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