Domestic Violence can be defined as a pattern of behavior in any relationship that is used to gain or maintain power and control over an intimate partner.
Abuse is physical, sexual, emotional, economic or psychological actions or threats of actions that influence another person. This includes any behaviors that frighten, intimidate, terrorize, manipulate, hurt, humiliate, blame, injure or wound someone.
Domestic violence can happen to anyone of any race, age, sexual orientation, religion or gender. It can happen to couples who are married, living together or who are dating. Domestic violence affects people of all socioeconomic backgrounds and education levels.
Source: National Domestic Violence Hotline
Does your partner:
- Embarrass you with put-downs?
- Look at you or act in ways that scare you?
- Control what you do, who you see or talk to or where you go?
- Stop you from seeing your friends or family members?
- Take your money or Social Security check, make you ask for money or refuse to give you money?
- Make all of the decisions?
- Tell you that you’re a bad parent or threaten to take away or hurt your children?
- Prevent you from working or attending school?
- Act like the abuse is no big deal, it’s your fault, or even deny doing it?
- Destroy your property or threaten to kill your pets?
- Intimidate you with guns, knives or other weapons?
- Shove you, slap you, choke you, or hit you?
- Force you to try and drop charges?
- Threaten to commit suicide?
- Threaten to kill you?
If you answered ‘yes’ to even one of these questions, you may be in an abusive relationship. For support and more information please call the National Domestic Violence Hotline at (800) 799-SAFE (7233).
Source: National Domestic Violence Hotline
Here are some ways that you can prevent domestic violence:
- Promote domestic violence awareness. When people become aware of the domestic-violence statistics and its effects on lives and communities, it keeps the issue alive and important.
- Speak out against domestic violence. Talking about the seriousness of domestic violence amongst friends, family and other community members also helps to keep the importance out there.
- Call Military Police or civilian law enforcement if you see or hear evidence of domestic violence.
- Support a friend or family member who may be in an abusive relationship Encourage him or her to report the abuse to a Victim Advocate (VA). You may also contact the VA for information.
- VAs are available 24 hours a day/7 days a week at every Army installation. Contact the ACS Family Advocacy Program or check the Services Locator on this Web site for the VA hotline number at your installation.
- Military OneSource can also help you locate your installation VA. (CONUS: 1-800-464-8107; OCONUS: 00-800-3429-6477 or collect: 484-530-5889).
- Volunteer with your Army Community Service’s Family Advocacy Program or with a local domestic violence agency.
- Raise your children to respect others. Teach your children to respect others and to treat others as they would like to be treated. Lead by example.
- Participate in prevention and awareness events for the Army’s Domestic Violence Prevention Month.
Source: Army's Victim Advocacy Program
The Army’s Family Advocacy Program provides comprehensive assistance and support to victims of domestic abuse and sexual assault, including crisis intervention, safety planning, assistance in securing medical treatment for injuries, information on legal rights and proceedings, and referral to military and civilian shelters and other resources available to victims. Services are available 24 hours a day / 7 days a week to Soldiers and Family members.
National Domestic Violence Hotline
Staff provides callers with crisis intervention, information about domestic violence, and referrals to local programs 24/7.
(800) 799–SAFE (7233)
Rape, Abuse, and Incest National Network (RAINN)
The network is the Nation’s largest anti-sexual-assault organization and operates the National Sexual Assault Hotline.
(800) 656–HOPE (4673)
National Teen Dating Abuse Helpline
Find support and information about dating abuse by talking one-on-one with a trained advocate 24/7 who can connect you to resources.
National Center for Victims of Crime
A database of over 10,000 organizations that link victims with a variety of important services, including crisis intervention, information, assistance throughout the criminal justice process, counseling, support groups and legal counsel.