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Question:
How do I know if my spouse and I should seek marriage counseling?

Answer:
People seek professional help from marriage counselors for many reasons. In many cases it is because one or both partners feel their relationship is in trouble and the help of an objective professional might help them return to a more blissful marital state, through therapy and counseling sessions. Sometimes, people seek marriage counseling to get a 'tune-up' in their marriage. It is never wrong to want to improve your marriage, but seeking professional help is a personal decision that only you can make.

Question:
How useful are personality type indicator instruments?

Answer:
Personality type indicator instruments are used to help individuals analyze their personality traits. The results can provide insights into one’s work style preferences as well as highlight leadership strengths and weaknesses. The information can also be used to assist an individual’s interpersonal communication with others. Many career counselors used these instruments to determine compatible career paths for their clients.

Question:
What are some signs of an unhealthy relationship?

Answer:
There are a number of things that signify an unhealthy relationship such as when a partner who is overly jealous and/or possessive of you; one who won’t let your have friends; constantly checks up on you; makes you feel afraid or uncomfortable in his/her presence; withdraws or avoids you; threatens you; is violent or mistreats you; etc. Note that this list is not conclusive. However, you should question relationships with individuals who exhibit such behaviors. Seek counseling; if necessary, or if you fear your life is threatened contact your local law enforcement authority. Note that confidential professional counseling and resources are available to you through the Army One Source program. In CONUS, call 1-800-464-8107; OCONUS, call toll-free 800-464-810777 or collect at 484-530-5889. You can also visit their website at www.armyonesource.com. For your initial login, enter "Army" for the User ID and "onesource" for the Password.

Question:
What are some techniques that can aid in accomplishing clear interpersonal communications?

Answer:
There are a number of things to consider when communicating with others and depend on the communication channel being used. For example, if you are communicating by phone, it is important to speak clearly and loud enough for the receiver to hear what you are saying. Aside from using high-tech equipment, facial expressions cannot be seen via the telephone so the tone of your voice plays a large part in how the message is received. Recognize that emails may be quick and easy, but they can be impersonal. It is important to be sensitive of the other individual’s knowledge level about the subject to which you are speaking. You may need to provide additional background information to familiarize the individual with the subject matter. Be sensitive of the individual’s feelings if you suspect the information you are relaying may upset him/her or be met with some resistance. Be aware of your own tone of voice when speaking to others. The same information can be interpreted differently depending on the way the individual relays it. These are just a few suggestions on how to accomplish clear interpersonal communication. Learn more about effective communication skills from the resources listed here.

Question:
What can I do to alleviate stress associated with reunions once my Soldier returns from his/her deployment?

Answer:
Deployments, and reunions following a deplolyment, can be very stressful on families but there are things you can do prior to your Soldier's return and even after his/her return to alleviate some of this stress. Take advantage of any reunion classes that are offered (if any) in your local military community prior to your Soldier's return. Your Soldier will have the opportunity to participate in them as well. They can provide you with great tips for having a successful reunion and can also help you and your spouse develop realistic expectations for the reunion period. Additionally, recognize that you both may have changed/grown during your time apart so expect some adjustments to occur in your family life. Try to maintain some normalcy in your life and communicate with each other. There are many resources you can turn to in your military and civilian community such as your chaplain and family health provider.

Question:
What do “communication barriers” mean?

Answer:
Communication barriers refer to the obstructions that interfere with an information exchange. Communication is filtered through personalities, attitudes, values, belief systems, assumptions made about each other, experiences, etc. and can cause mixed signals to exist when two or more individuals communicate. In addition to individual characteristics that can cause a barrier to effective communication, the medium through which the information is exchanged can also cause interference. Recognize which communication and techniques to use for a given situation (e.g., the telephone, face to face, email; personal communication skills and techniques such as directing versus coaching, telling versus asking, etc.).

Question:
What is meant by "invalidation" with regards to relationships?

Answer:
Invalidation is a pattern in which one partner subtly or directly puts down the thoughts, feelings, or character of the other.

Question:
What is meant by "negative interpretations" with regard to relationships?

Answer:
Negative interpretations occur when one partner consistently believes that the motives of the other are more negative than is really the case.

Question:
What is the Building Strong and Ready Families (BSRF) program?

Answer:
The Chief of Chaplains offers a program called Building Strong and Ready Families (BSRF) to strengthen couple relationships and assist in adaptation to the Army. This program is oriented toward first term couples.

Question:
Why is it important for leaders to have diversity training?

Answer:
It is important for leaders (and individuals) to have diversity training so they can demonstrate more sensitivity to the various cultural, ethnic, and other differences in their organizations. For example, workplaces today are filled with individuals of all cultures, races, genders, ages, and sexual orientations. Employees have a right to be treated equally and to be respected by their leaders and by each other. In some cases, a leader who shows a lack of sensitivity regarding an individual’s culture, gender, race, age, etc., can have grave consequences for him/her, and perhaps be a serious liability for the organization.
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